In Search of the Mythical, Perfect Work At Home Mom

Cropped screenshot of Doris Day from the trail...
Cropped screenshot of Doris Day from the trailer for the film Love Me or Leave Me (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

When I became a mom, I really wanted to be the best parent that I could be. In fact, I had this vision in my head on what kind of mother I wanted to be. My daughter would always be clean and neat, I would always cook from scratch, and I would never, ever lose my temper.

Good luck with that ever happening.

The only times my daughter is both neat and clean is after she takes her bath. Thirty minutes after she has dressed up after bathing, she stops being neat and I usually have to settle for clean. I’m lucky if she manages to stay stain free most of the day.

As for cooking from scratch, the nearest take-out/delivery place close to our house already has our address on file and my daughter knows  most of the delivery boys by name.

As for my temper, I knew it was going to be a stretch for me to keep my cool for extended periods of time so it wasn’t much of a surprise for me that I couldn’t keep that promise.

I wish I could say that once you become a work at home mom, you’ll have the same control as over your household as a stay at home mom. Once you become a work at home mom, you’ll need to delegate or let some things pass because of work (especially if you’re working full time).

Housewife in the Kitchen of Her Mobile Home in...
Housewife in the Kitchen of Her Mobile Home in One of the Trailer Parks… (Photo credit: The U.S. National Archives)

In the beginning, I hated that I couldn’t be that Doris Day figure I had in my head. But eventually,I realized that it’s okay.

It’s okay that my daughter likes to be dirty and she prefers to play outside. This means she has friends, she’s exploring and having a great childhood.

It’s okay to have take every week. I can afford it, it frees up my time, and the food I buy for her is still healthy (they’re home cooked meals, not junk food). Because when I do have the time, I cook. And as long as my daughter isn’t picky and eats everything I cook and buy, I shouldn’t worry.

And it’s okay to lose your temper. That’s what kids do. They test your limits and they do bad things because they don’t know better yet. What’s important is that she knows why I sometimes lose my temper, that my temper will eventually go away, and that I will always  love my daughter.

Ultimately, what I’m saying is we can all strive to be perfect but all we can do is do our best and that’s okay. In fact, it’s better than okay. We’re living the life that most women envy and we’re doing it with as much grace and finesse as we can. Let’s forgive ourselves of our imperfections and just enjoy the great things that our life, our lifestyle, has to offer.

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