One of the biggest and the hardest lessons I learned as a work at home mom was to cut myself some slack.
It’s not that I’m overly ambitious. It’s just that when I do something, I want to do it right and do it well. This has caused me a bit of anxiety through the years. But when I became a mom, that anxiety has reached to a point that it was affecting my health.
And it turns out I’m not alone. A lot of work at home moms feel this way. Most of us did choose this lifestyle because we believed we could have it all; a good family life and career. We want to give everything we can to these two facets of our lives, sometimes to the point where we burn the candle at both ends and wear ourselves down.
We’re Not SuperWomen
As work at home moms, we have to accept that we can’t do at all. We can’t do it all because and no one can. It’s not a weakness on our part, it’s a fact of life.
We can’t keep our homes pristine every day of the week.
We will lose patience with out children.
We will get burned out when we try to do everything.
And just because we can’t do everything doesn’t mean we didn’t do anything. As moms, we already do more than what’s expected from us. We’re not superwomen. We don’t have superpowers. We don’t have unlimited strength, patience, and stamina to be perfect moms. But we already do more than what we’re capable of because we all strive to be good moms.
Being good enough is good enough
We have to remind ourselves not to focus on the fact that we can’t do it all but rather on the fact that we have done more than what was expected of us.
Focus on our blessings and not on our setbacks.
Appreciate the fact that we have a little bit of everything as opposed to not having anything at all.
Being good enough is good enough because that’s the best anyone can do. Because in the end, the reason we’re working so hard is to do the best for families. And since we’re working so hard, don’t we deserve to pat ourselves in the back every once in a while? Take it easy and let some things slide to save our sanity and just make up for it another day?
I may not be able to cook every meal for my family but I am with them every meal time.
I may not always be the one to give my daughter a bath but I am the one who puts her to sleep.
My career maybe not be what I was trained for but I know I’m doing a good job at it.
My life now may not be the life that I have planned for myself, but I know I’ve done well with the cards I’ve been dealt with.
Once we learn to cut ourselves some slack, that’s when we experience the balance we’re striving for. Because balance isn’t about achieving perfection, it’s about finding peace, contentment and happiness amidst all the chaos.